Some people are uncomfortable hanging out with people who have Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, because it can be hard to have a conversation with someone whose vision of reality is different from yours. It can be tempting to correct someone with dementia when he or she misinterprets or misremembers an event, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say to comfort someone who’s struggling to remember things that seem so simple to the rest of the world.
However, Steve is not one of those people. He doesn’t care if his conversation with his grandmother makes sense. He doesn’t care when she isn’t able to remember what time of day it is (it’s cookie time, he says). He doesn’t even care that he’s spoiling Grandma’s dinner with cookies and milk.
At first, Steve’s grandma seems wary, as Steve gets out all the ingredients they’ll need for their cookie dunking date and explains how to properly dunk the cookies. But it isn’t long before Grandma is joining in the fun, pointing at the camera, making faces, dunking cookies, and creating a nice mess of crumbs (which Steve promises her he will clean up).
Steve is the kind of friend or family member every person with dementia needs. It’s so important to have someone who’s willing to listen, help, and have fun, without any judgement. No quizzing, no prompting, no reminding. Just a bunch of love and laughter.
It’s absolutely normal to feel uncomfortable in these types of unfamiliar situations, but if you can work around that and just let things be the way they are, you and your loved one will feel a whole lot better. Don’t worry; Steve will show you how it’s done.
Check out the video below to see what is surely the best grandma-grandson cookie-dunking date in the history of ever.
Need another happy story in your life? Well don’t worry. We’ve got one coming up next about a supermarket that keeps re-training one of their employees so she can continue to work, even though she has dementia.
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Elizabeth Nelson is a wordsmith, an alumna of Aquinas College in Grand Rapids, a four-leaf-clover finder, and a grammar connoisseur. She has lived in west Michigan since age four but loves to travel to new (and old) places. In her free time, she. . . wait, what’s free time?